For some reason, we showcase a comment like this as positive and inspiring. But it is not. The idea of keeping a stiff upper lip can set people up to live their last days, months, years in unnecessary discomfort and fear. We understand the fierce desire to maintain one’s independence. But is being invisible at the end of our life desirable? Why would anyone want that? Why do we, as a society, accept the neglect of our more experienced individuals? Why do we wait until