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Remember when having “the talk” meant an awkward introduction to sex?  Well, today, with sex featured prominently, well, everywhere – the topic is not quite the taboo subject it used to be. No, today, odds are, the more awkward “talk” will centre on aging and care options. 

For some reason, many of us choose to believe that not addressing the elephant in the room means that nothing will happen. It seems that most of us think that one day at the age of 97 we will climb the stairs to our room, settle comfortably off to sleep and never awake. Unfortunately, that is not true for 99% of us. It makes as much sense ignoring aging as it does ignoring that changing mole on your cheek, or counting on that lottery win to pay your credit card bills. We kick the can down the road until something bad happens. And boy, when that ‘something bad’ does happen, it sends everyone into a tailspin.  

Let’s take this on and take care of ourselves and loved ones.

Let’s talk about it, and plan for it.

Let’s stop pretending we don’t know it’s coming.  

 

 

 

If you are the adult children, care givers, nieces, nephews,

friends, caring neighbours of Seniors:  

Sit down with your loved one and talk. Opening the door to conversation can be as simple as asking “Are you ever nervous on your own at home?”

We have created a few conversation starters that will help you address your concerns of your loved one living alone. ​

 

  • Is getting in and out of the bath/shower more challenging than it used to be? 

  • Are you still able to manage the stairs (in the house, the front steps, to the basement?) 

  • Do you still feel comfortable driving at night?

  • If you were to ever fall inside your home, have you thought about how someone could help you? 

  • Do you know your neighbours well enough that you could call on them for help, or would they think to check on you if they hadn’t seen you in a few days? 

  • If you live alone, do you talk to someone at least once a day?  

  • How do you spend your time during the day? Do you have a lot of social interactions? 

  • What about keeping your home clean and tidy? How does that work? Do you have help? Can you manage? 

  • Are you overwhelmed? 

  • Where applicable – how do you manage garbage, snow, gardening?  

  • Let’s make a list of who has a key to the house and who could arrive first to help if anything happens. 

  • Let’s talk about groceries and meals – are you able to manage buying groceries and making meals?  

  • Are you taking more medication?  Does it ever get confusing? Would you like some help managing it?  

 

Not having the conversation with your loved ones brings constant uncertainty into your own life. Who does your Mom or Dad want making decisions for them? Who will they call on to help them?  Having a plan in place and a little bit of knowledge on what’s available or possible will bring peace of mind to everyone. 

 

Discerning Seniors can help!  

You will be amazed at how effective this can be. And once you have talked…there are so many options. Living in fear is not necessary, and it doesn’t mean you lose your freedom.  As a matter of fact, when you have the right support in place, freedom grows. 

 

 

If you are a senior living in your own home 

Here’s the big secret: Your kids, nieces, nephews and even your neighbours are already thinking about this. They are worried. They don’t want to offend you but they are worried about the day you fall in the shower. They are worried about you driving at night, and they are worried about you eating properly. Call them, and open the door to the conversation. Let them know that you have thought about it too and would like their help in creating a plan. Understand your options before something happens that results in fewer options for you.  Living at home safely can be accomplished with a few modifications – or if you are the kind of person who thrives in new social situations, a retirement home may be just the right fit. There are loads of services that can help you address your living situation – from drivers to meal preparation. 

You will be amazed at how effective this can be. And once you have talked…there are so many options. Living in fear is not necessary, and it doesn’t mean you lose your freedom. As a matter of fact, when you have the right support in place, freedom grows. 

"The Talk"

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how to discuss lifestyle changes brought on by aging.